Get honest about the things you need and want for your relationships and write them down. The author emphasizes the importance of consent in both casual and intimate relationships, and provides practical tips for expressing ones needs effectively. Henry Clouds workbook on boundaries is based on the one above. Despite the title, many readers find it to be a helpful blueprint for all kinds of committed relationships, not just marriage. Which is all to say that hes kind of a big deal and his work is worth reading. See here.Published 2021, avg rating 4.27 For example, you may not want to ask your partner to do something that makes them uncomfortable or triggers past trauma. My post from yesterday on false contentment relates to this subject as well. If you are stuck in cycles or not seeing growth in your life, I encourage you to pick up the book! It’s available as print, kindle or audio. In the book, there are many examples and strategies and how-to’s for ending things. I’ve summarized maybe 2 or 3 chapters out of 12. Having an abnormally high pain threshold.ERRONEOUS MINDSETS THAT KEEP US FROM ENDING THINGS We do not even know the right words to use.Ĥ.We do not possess the skills to execute the ending.We do not know if an ending is actually necessary, or if “it” or “he” is fixable.Our desire to remain in comfortable and familiar situations can blind us to benefit of ending things. It’s quite common for people to fear change. You could simply replace the word “endings” the word “change” here.
Just a the climate seasons change every three months, we need to know that areas of our life should change regularly. The third chapter is entitled, “Normalizing Necessary Endings.” Here, author Henry Cloud makes the point that we need to make the idea of ending things as necessary and normal.
Clients than you can service all in the same way.Activities than you can keep up with at any significant level.– Prune the dead to make room for the living. – Prune the sick, that will never be well. – Prune the good, in order to have the best. Pruning in your life will allow you to use your resources more effectively. You have limited time, energy and resources. KEY FACT: Just as every rosebush creates more buds than it can sustain, a life without pruning will have more ideas, more directions, more relationships that it can sustain. However, you must understand this key fact. Yes, the immediate sensation is loss and pain. Yes, pruning is cutting and cutting hurts. The process of pruning makes the thing pruned more beautiful and more healthy than it would have been if left alone. Here are my major takeaways from the book: It is often required to see change and growth. The process of ending things isn’t only necessary, but it should be a regular part of your life. The gist of book is just as the title and subtitle states: you must end things in order to move forward in your life. Necessary Endings focuses on a very straight-forward topic, but reveals how critical and rare it is to practice. Today, I’m posting my second book review of books that really impacted me in 2013. Necessary Endings, by Henry Cloud, co-author of the bestseller, Boundaries.
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